Monthly Archives: May 2018

mother-daughter connection

mother-daughter connection

This past week I gave over a workshop designed for Mothers and Daughters, who were learning together in preparation for the daughters bat mitsvah. Oftentimes the relationships which are most important and special to us, can be taken for granted. Just as it is important for us to work on ourself, on self actualization, it is important for us to work on our relationships with other people, particularly ones who are important to us. Tal Ben Shachar, Professor at Harvard University, recommended writing a letter to someone that includes detailing why the relationship…Read more
Using Music in Emotional Regulation

Using Music in Emotional Regulation

In a previous post, I described about a new method I learned to deal with emotional regulation called, הפרוטוקול הגמיש. This method teaches people how to understand, and control their various emotions in a fun, interesting and controlled method. One aspect that I particularly connected to, was the ability to use music, art and drama as part of the program. Other CBT methods that I had seen didn't use the whole array of creative tools that this method used. While some people don't need or want the various creative means, other people don't…Read more
Music Helping Grief

Music Helping Grief

Music plays a big role in helping people to grieve. Music can be used in many different ways: Music has been proven to release stress and relieve tension. While one must be careful with which music is chosen to help heal, music can help relax and make a person more happy. Music can also provide a means of expressing the grief, anger and pain. Hearing certain words can be healing, as well as singing them oneself. Music can be used to inspire and encourage. Tony Falzano, a writer, composer and grief specialist, described…Read more
Learning How To Grieve

Learning How To Grieve

John James and Russell Friedman wrote an insightful and practical book on grieving. They lead the reader through various steps to help grieve. Many of us have experienced things in our lives that are a cause for grief. They defined grief as "conflicting feelings caused by a change or an end in a familiar pattern of behavior. " I found this definition to be fascinating, as I always associated grief as extreme sadness and sorrow relating to very tramatic events. Grief however can apply to any change. While grief is often felt regarding…Read more